The "other woman"

I remember this night like it was yesterday. We headed to a Nebraska Cornhusker football game in Lincoln, NE. It was a night game so we got there relatively early to party and hang-out. I was having a terrific time...until he got the call. His ex-wife was pretty messed up. On several prescription drugs, depressed and had attempted suicide a fews times. Only this time she succeeded. She left the car running in her garage, no one new exactly how long she had been there. Before the FB game even started we were headed back home. What the hell do you say during a car ride like this? Not only was his whole life about to change, so was our relationship.

I attended the funeral, he was preparing for being a single dad and moved back into his own house and the lying and drinking escalated. Holy crap, now I'm dealing with a guy who I really like who has two little girls he's 100% in charge of...what do I do? I struggled, I got sicker and so did our relationship. I can't count how many times he lied to me over the course of the next few months. And things didn't stop there, I had one more night I will never forget.


He stayed at my townhouse one night and passed out. I couldn't sleep so I headed downstairs to watch TV. I noticed his cell phone kept lighting up so I checked it, thinking it might be his kids. It wasn't! It was multiple text messages from another girls. Asking about "their" relationship etc. I was absolutely sick to my stomach. I didn't understand what was going on so I went to my best friends house in my neighborhood. She told me I should go home and confront him about it; so that's what I did.

I woke him up and asked him about what was going on. He played dumb at first and then said it was just the girls babysitter. So, why would she want to talk about "your relationship then?" He denied everything and said she liked him but he didn't like her. This is where the hell begins. Over the course of the winter this continued to be a HUGE problem. She kept calling, he would either not answer, hide his phone or turn it on vibrate. There were several times that I would call him at night and he would not answer. The next day he would say he fell asleep after he put the kids to bed. For some reason, my stomach told me otherwise.